What’s it all about Alfie?


I never paid much attention to the lyrics of this song past the second line, but find myself on not infrequent occasions muttering or humming the tune’s first lines. If you need a refresher…here’s how it starts:

What’s it all about, Alfie?
Is it just for the moment we live?
What’s it all about when you sort it out, Alfie?
Are we meant to take more than we give…

There are those among us who have a difficult time giving ourselves permission to become completely absorbed in the day to day trivialities of life. You know who you are. You’re the ones who when you leave work, joining the throngs of people in mass exit heading home towards parking lots or public transit, wonder if it isn’t reminiscent of the ants we marvel at in summer, all marching along in concert to support the colony.

You are the ones who have conversations with yourself, while trying to convince a colleague, group or client of the value of a particular course of action and the long and short term beneficial consequences.

You are the one who, while walking down the street curiously observing your fellow man, queries yourself if you are indeed the only one thinking about, “what its all about,”– for you are sure everyone seems quite absorbed in the task of getting somewhere, going somewhere, doing something, none of which  include being perplexed about their state of being.

Do you sometimes think, in 50 years most of the people I’m looking at will not be on this planet and wonder if this thought has occurred to them? I do, with more regularity than I’d like to admit, and in those moments, this e e cummings’ quote comes to mind:

little man
(in a hurry
full of an
important worry)
halt stop forget relax


How apropos is it then, that as I write, this ad appears in my inbox, imploring me to get the “big picture” into my life. I chuckle. For some the “big picture” refers to a  large screen TV, nothing more, nothing less.

big picture2So today, I leave you with this: try a little Socratic scrutiny in your life. What’s your deal?  How do you see “the big picture?”  If it is true that “the unexamined life is not worth living,” and I do believe that is the case, then consider  periodically pressing your personal pause button.  Purvey the landscape of your life, the people in it that you value, the values that you espouse and consider whether they are all in sync.

If after reading this you happen to pass me on the street, no need to say hello, just nod. I’ll get it. Despite all the warnings my kids give me about not making eye contact with strangers, I’m likely to return the nod with a deeply satisfying, but polite and appropriately reserved smile.    So, go ahead, make my day.

Try to remember…

This is my first blog entry.  Appropriately coined “try to remember.”  The inspiration to create a blog came from one or another idea which I thought worth sharing. As a young person, I paid a good deal of attention to advice and counsel from my elders, now long gone. Even with that, I wish I had paid more, better and closer attention. What they said had value, I know now.

So as I make my way into the life’s evening, one thing shocks me:  How little people making their way through life pay attention to the bigger picture.

Intervening events, horrific news of yesterday’s attacks in Kenya have distracted me from the thought that motivated me earlier today when I decided, enough procrastination, time to get that blog going.  So I am here now–ready to launch the blog, but the prolific piece I had in mind to write has left me for the moment.

I don’t remember the older generation losing their train of thought quite so much as I do. Nor do I remember them as being in a constant state of movement, quite as much as I feel I am.

So, while I “try to remember” I will sign off with this today–I hope you find some merit, joy and food for thought in the posts that will follow in the days to come. Image